John Gottman in his book, "7 principles to make marriage work" lists 5 steps that he believes significantly help couples to deal with their solvable problems.
It is important to note that these behaviors and techniques are not complicated but ways of relating that we already utilize-with friends but have stopped using with our partners.
1) Soften your start up
2) Learn to make and receive repair attempts
3) Soothe yourself and each other
5) Be tolerant of each other's faults
Over the next 5 weeks, i will write in more detail about each of these appraoches to solvable problems.